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Young Mother Who Died in Childbirth Flown Home

Her body will be laid to rest in Mexico.

A young Flanders mother been sent home to her final resting place in Mexico.

Raquel Reyes-Marin, 27, died on April 7 after giving birth to her third child, and family members tried desperately to raise the money to send her body home.

As news spread of the family’s plight, concerned residents reached out with offers of help.

On Tuesday, Cristobal Albidiz, 28, Reyes-Marin’s longtime companion and the father of her three children, Jaqueline, 6, and Joshua, 3, as well as baby Jonathon, said friends and neighbors came together with donations to send her home. Collection jars were set up in shops throughout Flanders and Southampton.

“A lot of people have helped me already,” Albidez said. “It cost a lot of money, but thanks to everybody, she made it. She’s there now.”

His voice breaking, the 28-year old father of three described the last day he spent with the woman he loved -- a day that was supposed to be filled with dreams of new life, that, instead, darkened into a nightmare.

Reyes-Marin had already given birth to her older children by C-section, Albidez explained, and had some ongoing complications.

Her third pregnancy was deemed high risk; Albidez said; when she learned she was pregnant again, Reyes-Marin stopped working and stayed at home to rest.

After giving birth at Southampton Hospital, there were complications, Albidez said. She was subsequently transferred to Stony Brook University Medical Center, where she died.

"They told me if they moved her, she could die, but if she stayed, she could die. What are you going to do in that moment?" he asked.

After her sudden death, leaving behind two small children and a newborn, Albidez said neighbors, friends and strangers have been kind, reaching out to help.

“I don’t know what to say sometimes,” he said .”I’m just trying to get through this -- to figure out how I’m going to handle this. I’m really in shock. These things don’t happen every day.”

Her children, Albidez said, were the most important thing in their mother’s life. “She loved being a mother,” she said. “She told me if anything ever happened to her, to take care of the children. She trusted me.”

Without childcare, Albidez is unable to work. He has found comfort in his church but says the road ahead is uncertain. “It’s not easy what I’m going through right now,” he said. “I’m going to need some kind of help.”

Donations are being collected to help Albidez care for his young children.

Representatives at Stony Brook University Medical Center said it would be a violation of state and federal patient privacy laws, or HIPAA laws, to comment on a patient. Southampton Hospital officials did not immediately respond to a request for comment.

Lisa Finn (Editor) April 18, 2012 at 04:20 pm
Some of our Riverhead Patch Facebook readers are commenting on this story:
Ethel Hanse Delia: so sad :( Kristen Ann: Her father is my neighbor. They are a loving family, great people and neighbors. It is a sad tragedy. Rip
BARBARA BARTALOMY April 18, 2012 at 06:38 pm
This just breaks your heart! RIP
Lisa Finn (Editor) April 18, 2012 at 10:01 pm
Also on Riverhead Patch Facebook:
Kirsten Skarka-Cisco: Wow my heart breaks for this family. I M so very sorry :(
Lisa Votino-Tarrant April 21, 2012 at 12:56 pm
Do you know where the donation cans are? I'd like to pitch in :)
kate mueth April 21, 2012 at 03:03 pm
I have baby clothes I'd love to give them if they need it.... where can I take them?
Lisa Finn (Editor) April 21, 2012 at 05:37 pm
Hi Lisa and Kate, I think there will be a coordinated effort in the next few days to organize donations. I'll let you know as soon as I learn the details. Thank you so much
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Elyse Richman April 21, 2012 at 11:28 pm
We can help out as well, please let me know, so sad.
Pat Mansir April 22, 2012 at 06:40 pm
The children are going to need counceling to assure that, as they get older, they do not relate the death of their mother with the infants birth ( fault) and lay blame that will harm both them and the father and the baby. It needs to be handled well now and continuing into the future.
Lisa Finn (Editor) April 22, 2012 at 07:52 pm
Elyse, thank you so much. I will let you know as soon as we have the details. And Pat, thank you for your insightful comment.
Gail Simons April 23, 2012 at 03:13 am
The family is in my prayers. Such a tragically sad story.

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